8 Signs Your Girl Is Just Using You

While some men don’t want to settle down and claim a girlfriend, most men don’t need any “girl…friends” either. After all, what man wants to just “hang out” with a beautiful woman?

That’s what his boys are for. It’s totally possible for men and women to be platonic friends, but that’s not normally how it starts.

The man is attracted to a woman, he asks her out, and they spend time together. But then somewhere along the line, said man falls into the dreaded “friend zone” – and he has no idea how he got there. He’s not sure if she’s playing hard to get, or if he’s been hoodwinked – and while he’s trying to figure it all out, the woman knows exactly what she’s doing. If you’re not sure if you’re being played for a fool, here are some signs that she just might be using you.

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1. You Are Her Personal Chauffeur

You have a car…she doesn’t. This is not a big deal, and being the gentleman you are, you have no problem picking her up for dates. But after a while, you’re not just picking her up to go to the movies. You’re driving her to work, to her doctor’s appointment and even to her friends’ house. As a matter of fact, she asks you to drive her AND her friends around – to the club, the mall, wherever. But she’s attractive, so you do it, even if it’s totally out of your way. The way you see it, she’ll think you’re such a nice guy that she might even invite you INSIDE of her home one day.

But she doesn’t, and you barely get a kiss on the cheek for all of the gas you’ve burnt up.  If she’s given you ZERO indication that she’s even remotely physically attracted to you, then she’s using you for a ride. Unless you’ve at least gotten to second base, keep your car parked and let her figure out how to get around herself.

2. You’re Her Flunky

It’s not enough that you drive her around, but sometimes she sends you out WITHOUT HER to run her errands. She asks you, in that ever so sweet voice of hers, to pick up her dry cleaning “since it’s on your way home.” She has to work late, so she wants to know if you’d be a dear and walk her precious dog for her. And you do it, because you figure that’s what a good boyfriend would do, right? Right.

Problem is, you’re not her boyfriend, you’re her errand boy; and any hopes you had of becoming her boyfriend went out the window along with your dignity. She’s not going to date you because she doesn’t respect you. Some women don’t like a guy who does whatever she says or who she can walk all over. What you see as kindness, she may view as weakness. It’s sad but true. There’s nothing wrong with being a good friend, if that’s all you want to be. But if you want more, and she’s not giving it to you, despite all of your good intentions, then bounce…and let her hire an assistant.

3. You Are Her “Go-To” Date

If you find that she only wants to go OUT – to the movies, a concert or to her favorite restaurant, chances are she just wants to get out of the house and you are her “go-to” date. Every time she calls, you’re always available…probably because you sit around waiting for your phone to ring. She knows this, and she also knows that you will do anything to be in her presence. If she’s always busy when you invite her to your crib or you’ve never seen the inside of her place, then she probably doesn’t want to be anywhere where something could jump off…and she’d have to turn you down. Just once or twice, be busy when she calls or tell her “no” to an outside date and see how she reacts. If she’s bent out of shape or stops calling, then you’ll know she’s probably not that into you.

4. You Pay For ALL Dates

Not only are you her “go-to” date – you also PAY for ALL of the dates. Some women expect men to pay for all dates, and some men even agree with that. But you shouldn’t be going broke while you’re trying to figure if she actually even likes you. If you’ve got the means to stick it out until she magically falls in love with you, then rock on. But if you have to take out a small loan just to keep courting this woman, while she NEVER ever offers to pay for anything, then stop…now. See how long she wants to “date” you when you tell her that you forgot your wallet.

5. You Pay Her Bills

It’s one thing to pay for dates, but it’s another thing to pay her rent. There’s nothing wrong with helping out a friend in need, or LOANING someone some money until they get on their feet. But unless you are her MAN, and you KNOW this, then there is no way you should be paying for anything that’s in her name. Men and women use each other all the time for different things, but you’re a straight up sucka if she hands you a utility bill and you actually pay it…regularly. And don’t try taking her to court when she drops you for some other fool and you’re out hundreds or thousands of dollars. She’ll claim it was a “gift” and you’ll never get your money back. Listen to what I’m telling you and save yourself from having to learn an expensive lesson on your own.

6. You’re Mr. Fix It

You’ve let it be known that you’re pretty handy when it comes to fixing things, so she invites you over one Saturday afternoon to “help” her paint her house. You think it’ll earn you some cool points – and you’ll get to be INSIDE her place and you can seduce her while you wait for the paint to dry. WRONG! All she’s going to do is find a way to be busy “doing something else” while you paint, and when you’re done, she’ll suddenly need a ride to Home Depot to pick up some things for the next project you’ll be working on. So you drive her there (See #1) and pay for all the materials (See #5) and then go back to her place to install her new cabinets, hang some shelves and fix her leaky faucet. She doesn’t even offer to feed you (See #4).  She rushes you out of her house when the work is done because she’s “tired” (has a date with someone else) so you leave, hoping for another chance to get closer to her bedroom. You, my friend, have been had. Next time, tell her to hire a contractor and keep it moving.

7. You’re Her Confidante

So by now, you realize that you’re in the” friend zone”, but you don’t care. You think you still have a chance to woo her, so you continue to be her shoulder to cry on hoping that one day she’ll come to her senses and realize what a wonderful, caring, compassionate man you are. So you endure endless hours of her late night calls crying to you about the jerk who broke her heart (again). You encourage her complaints about all the no-good men out there and remind her that if she were your woman, you’d never hurt her and treat her like the queen that she is. Little do you know, she’s a glutton for punishment, only likes “bad boys” and thinks nice guys like you are weak and pathetic. Dude, run…or else she’ll just continue to use you up and walk all over you. You’re wasting your time if you think she’ll change her mind about you – and if she finally ever does, it’ll be too late…because you will have found a woman who appreciates you.

8. You’re Her Sex Toy

Now, this might not be a problem for most men out there, but if you are genuinely interested in having a real relationship, getting married and having kids one day, then you might want to find a woman who wants you for more than sex. Believe it or not, there are women out there, like men, who have jump-offs who they will never be seen out in public with. The sex is earth shattering, but she doesn’t want a relationship, OR, she doesn’t want a relationship with YOU. Maybe you’re too short, don’t have a job, have multiple children with multiple women, have some teeth missing…who knows. Either way, she doesn’t want her girlfriends to know about you, so you become her dirty little secret and she calls you after midnight to come by and crack her back. Now, again…some, if not most, men would be fine with this arrangement. But if you’ve somehow caught feelings for her, then it’s best you leave now before your heart gets broken into a million little pieces once she finds a guy she can actually be seen in daylight with.

TRUE FACTS ABOUT WHOMEVER YOU ARE DATING

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it is not "Love" it is "PITY"

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it is not "Love" it is "INFATUATION"

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Barack Obama Gives Jay-Z Advice On Raising Girls

Jay-Z became a dad for the first time on January 7 when he welcomed daughter Blue Ivy Carter with wife Beyonce, but it’s none other than President Barack Obama, father to Sasha, 11, and Malia, 14, who gave the hip hop superstar some family advice. “I made sure that Jay-Z was helping Beyonce out [with the baby], and not leaving it all with Beyonce and the mother-in-law,” he told host Colby Colb on Oct. 19 during a radio show for Cleveland radio station Z107.9. But the president says his advice to the 99 Problems rapper is just friend-to-friend. “I’ve gotten to know these guys over the first several years,” he said. “They’re good people. We talk about the same things I talk about with all my friends.” And new mom Beyonce and First Lady Michelle Obama are just as close. “Beyonce could not be sweeter to Michelle and the girls. So they’re good friends.” Jay-Z held a private fundraiser for the president on Sept. 18, and has been active in his re-election campaign.

Ladies, Ten Reasons Why You Should Date A Younger Man

1. It will make you feel more in charge
2. Younger boys are going to try a lot harder to impress you
3. You can pretend that YOU are younger
4. He will assume that you know what you are doing
5. You will spend more time together in your flat because it will be nicer than his
6. He will be eager to learn from you in the bedroom
7. He will have more energy in the bedroom
8. You will have lots more fun
9. He will go to the gym and have a better body
10. He will die later than you, so you won’t be left old and alone

Don’t Marry Outside The Church, Also Don’t Marry Jobless Men – Pastor Adeboye

Recently The General Overseer of the redeemed peoples Mission Pastor EA Adeboye spoke to the singles in his church which has raised some controversies. Read the excerpts and leave your comments. tell us what you think.

Excerpts:

There is a difference between enthusiasm and unruliness. As unstoppable youths we need to be enthusiastic but not unruly. Out of all the instruments mentioned in the bible for praising the whistle wasn’t mentioned! The whistle isn’t allowed in church, leave it for the football field!

MARRIAGE advice for the Ladies

It is better to remain single than to marry than to marry the wrong person!

Marrying the wrong person is like living in hell on earth and divorce isn’t an option!

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Don’t ever think you can marry somebody and change the fellow, if the person doesn’t change before you get married it is a settled case!

If you marry just because a guy is rich, tall and handsome but he not a true child of God, you are heading for trouble! Goliath was Tall, king saul was lanky but he lost his crown. Don’t marry a fool.

If a guy is following you to church just to get you , you will know! some guys are in church just to deceive you but the bible says by their fruits you’ll know them. Bible didn’t say by their words you’ll know them , some guys have sweet mouth! Don’t marry a sweet talking demon, watch their fruits!

If you marry someone who doesn’t believe in holiness, you are the one who dug your own grave yourself cos you’ll only be wife NO 1, many others are likely follow!

Romans 8:31: The reason RCCG weds with the bible instead of a ring is because the bible can never change, the word of God stands forever but a ring can be removed at anytime!

Those who will reach the top must be peculiar! There is always room at the top but only few will get there.

Don’t marry a man who has no job! Before God gave Adam a wife, he gave him a job! If he says he is a contractor, ask him for evidence of his previous contracts because you might just be the contract he is on about!

MARRIAGE advice for the GENTs

Don’t marry a Delilah! Don’t marry for beauty . Proverbs 31:30 says beauty is vain.

Don’t ever marry outside the church and you have no reason to marry outside RCCG. The reason is that If you are both from the same church even when trouble comes it is easier for the pastors to handle it!

Don’t marry a girl simply because she can sing! In the choir there are some people that can sing but they are falling angels! Marry a prayer warrior! If a girl cannot pray for 1 hour, don’t marry her.

Don’t marry a girl who is lazy! Don’t marry a girl who cannot cook, she needs to know how to do cores and cook because you cannot afford to be eating out all the time.

Don’t marry a girl who is worldly! If you do, you have carried what you’ll worship for the rest of your life!

Advice on MUSIC.

Music is not music unless it is organised. It must have rhyme, rhythm and repetition.

While the right kind of music keeps the devil away, the wrong music can invite demons.

The number one reason why God chose David to be king was because he was a musician singing the right songs!

It is possible to have wonderful music, music that will refresh you and bring God down without making noise. When the bible talks about making a joyful noise to the Lord, it was talking about shouts of Halleluyah.

In your gatherings, check the lyrics, rhyme and rhythms of your songs you use in worshipping God. As much as youths might not want to sing hymns all day, make sure the songs you sing are really glorifying God not just noise.

Advice on EVANGELISM

As youths, take evangelism seriously! Use your youthful strength for God and be proud to proclaim the gospel of Jesus Christ. Ecclesiastes 12:1

It takes only a few people to cause a riot the universities, why can’t a few unstoppable youths get up and start a riot to the kingdom of darkness?

RCCG is in many nations all over the world today because your parents worked hard in their youths. When the founder, Pa Akindayomi, died, RCCG was only in Nigeria and I was only 38 when the church was handed over to me. Other youths and I took evangelism seriously! We worked hard to bring the church to where it is now, today RCCG is in many nations of the world! IT IS YOUR TURN to take the church forward.

Joshua 1:1-9, Deuteronomy 34:9: We are to build on the foundation that has been laid for us by our fathers.

The elders are the foundation, the youths are the flowers! It’s a dangerous thing to be a flower, people pluck flowers but hardly do people touch the roots!If you stay connected to your roots, you’ll not dry up.

The one who is UNSTOPPABLE is the one who wouldn’t allow sin to come in because our God is a Holy God!

If you will worship God with good music not just noise , if you’ll witness without compromising, if you will be different and ready to stand out for Christ, if you are willing to pray with ceasing then you’ll be UNSTOPPABLE.

Dont forget to leave a comment. what do you think about his advice

Out dated dating Rules that still work

Out-dated dating adviceForget Grandma’s wisdom – the modern dating scene has evolved and some of the most classic Dating Advice is now obsolete. Steffan brings you up to speed. heheee...but seriously this oudated methods still work.
Wait 3 days to callIn the olden days, boy met girl, boy got girl’s phone number, boy waited three days to ring girl, boy looked mysterious and exotic. But those days have gone. In modern times when all of us carry around smart phones that can call, text, email, social-network, and IM, let alone challenge anyone to a game of online Scrabble at any time, waiting three days to get in touch just makes boy look like he ran out of call credit or like he’s trying too hard to be “cool”. Really, just get in touch the next day. Within 24 hours. If you don’t want to look like you’re trying too hard then don’t try too hard – just pick up the phone and say something simple like, “I really enjoyed meeting you and I’d love to go out sometime soon. Fancy it?” Don’t agonise over being funny or clever – the more run-of-the-mill you are in early communications, the more confident and experienced you’ll seem, because it’ll look like you ask people out all the time. And that, believe it or not, is sexy.
Wait 3 dates to get intimateFifty years ago, the Pill had only just been invented and it was still the norm for women to wait until at least engagement before they got horizontal with their boyfriend. Time has marched on and these days, some women feel they’re being uncommonly chaste if they wait just until they leave the pub. The three-date rule was therefore invented to bridge the gap – couples were advised to go to bed together on the third date, and not a moment sooner. Good advice? No. While there are indisputably huge benefits to waiting before going to bed with a partner – you both get to know each other’s true personality and character before you take that next step; you don’t risk becoming chemically attached to each other, because you’re not producing Oxytocin, the “bonding hormone”, that gets released during intercourse; dating without sex keeps things very light and fun – three dates simply isn’t long enough to get to know a person beyond what they like to order for dessert. If you want to wait, better to wait three months. If you don’t want to wait, then still don’t stick to an arbitrary three-date curfew, as it removes all the mystery and excitement – better to ambush them at some unexpected time.
Whether you wait or don’t, it’s how you act afterwards that will dictate how the relationship progresses. If you act the same afterwards, there’s a good chance you’ll stay together. But if you become clingy, needy or moody, things will stall or stop. If you know you become emotionally invested afterwards (and many people do, it’s normal and natural!), then wait.
Make your partner jealousIf your partner seems less attentive towards you, less interested, and is taking you for granted, you should make them jealous, right? Wrong! Just pull back and concentrate on YOUR LIFE for a while. Anything else will look desperate and needy. For example, if you take your partner to a party and spend the evening chatting-up somebody else, your partner will feel insulted and offended, not attracted. It’ll look obvious and fake. Instead, take your partner to a party and talk to everyone else – be the life and soul, flit around, have fun. Don’t concentrate on your moody mate, throw yourself into enjoying the evening. Or go to the party with your friends and don’t invite them, wait for them to invite you out somewhere and fit it in along with all the other fun, interesting activities you have planned. That is what attracts people: self-assured, well-rounded people who pursue their own interests, ambitions and goals. If you fear your partner is losing interest in you, lose interest in them for a while and fill up your time with things you love to do. Your partner will either feel the loss of your company and come around again, or they’ll fade away and you’ll be upset but you’ll still have a successful, interesting life to support you.
Girls, play down your accomplishmentsIt used to be said that women should never try to impress a man with their accomplishments – her “job” was to seem impressed by him. Luckily, this isn’t true today. Recent research by Forbes in the US has shown that men are now more likely than ever before to want a wife with drive and ambition. A long-running study that follows the traits which single Americans want in a spouse revealed earlier this year that “Ambition and industriousness” has risen to enter the top 10 for the first time ever. It’s still only at number 10 but we can be sure it will continue to rise as more and more males see the benefits of having a clever, successful wife who can share the financial burden of supporting a home and family. So girls, don’t be afraid to shine on your date! If you just got a promotion, tell him about it. If there’s a long-term goal you long to achieve, reveal all. Your perfect partner will be one who is keen to help you reach for your personal stars.
Men, use money to impress a girlFellas, if you’ve ever thought that the only way to dazzle the ladies was to flash around some cash, read on – your bank-manager will thank you, as will your partner. For years it’s been generally regarded that women are most attracted to men who can afford to shower them with expensive gifts, jewellery and dinners. But the Lovegeist report – the UK’s biggest annual survey into singletons’ attitudes towards love – has consistently found that “thoughtful gestures” mean far more to women than “extravagant gestures”. Budget-conscious babes would rather their partner regularly performed sweet, meaningful actions (like getting rid of spiders, remembering to do household jobs she hates, making thoughtful presents, even just really listening to what she says) than buying occasional expensive presents. It’s just one of the ways that Beta males can out-perform Alphas in the romantic world. Women seek partners who will be good providers, but also who are dependable, safe and reliable. Remembering her favourite flowers is perfect – it will earn you far more love than the largest bunch of something she doesn’t like.

“I Caught My Husband Videotaping My Little Sister While She Was Showering

Dear SG Readers 

I caught my husband videotaping my little sister while she was taking a shower. I caught him, and he apologized. He said that he didn’t know what came over him. He asked for a second chance .

I also found some unclad pictures and videos on his phone. I asked him to delete them, which he did, however, I never forgave him for my sister. Should I? Should I trust him? And, on top of it, I never asked what he wanted to do with the video? Is it late to ask him now?

Please help.

He’s A Great Guy, But He’s Not So Well-endowed & I’m Not Being Satisfied"

Dear Steff Gossip,

My boyfriend and I have been in a happy relationship for 4 months.
The relationship is excellent so far, he treats me like a queen. He’s very considerate, affectionate, understanding and committed. He’s the best man I’ve known so far. The only problem is that he has a very small member. About 2-inches.

He has a very high libido and always wants to have sex, but I don’t get turned on because I’m not getting satisfied because of his small size. The men in my past have been very well-endowed, but treated me so badly.

I finally have a good man that loves me, but the sex is boring. I emphasize on oral sex because it’s the only way I’m getting pleasure. But, he keeps asking me if I’m getting satisfied through penetration and I just don’t have the courage to tell him the truth that I’m not because he’s so small.

I don’t want to cheat because he’ll never take me back if he finds out. I definitely don’t want to lose him, but I can’t tell him the truth about his small member. Please my good readers. she needs advice from you guys. drop your comments on the comment box